Dedicated to my sweet friend who is struggling…
“When he told you you’re not good enough
When he told you you’re not right
When he told you you’re not strong enough
To put up a good fight
When he told you you’re not worthy
When he told you you’re not loved
When he told you you’re not beautiful
That you’ll never be enough
Fear he is a liar
He will take your breath
Stop you in your steps
Fear he is a liar
He will rob your rest
Steal your happiness
Cast your fear in the fire
Cause fear he is a liar…”
By Zach Williams (click below to listen)
We all face fear at some time or another in our lives — Fear of being a failure. Fear of being alone. Fear of not being enough. Fear of being misunderstood. Fear of disappointing; fear of being disappointed. Fear for the single girl that she’ll never marry. Fear for a child’s safety and future. Fear for our health. Fear of what if? Miscarriages, cancer, marital issues, unemployment, a sick spouse, abuse…fear can be overwhelming. But if we spend our life making decisions based on fear, we will never move forward.
In a Psychology Today article by Robert Wilson, Jr., he states, “I have been a student of motivation for more than three decades, and I can think of thousands of motivations that tempt us daily: love, hunger, sex, comfort, health, status, and so on. However, the top motivator is fear. It is such a strong driver of our behavior that it may also form the basis for every other motivator in our lives. Fear is a prime motivator because it is rooted in our childhood experiences, and it moves us subconsciously.”
Fear can be debilitating and destructive; it can keep us from experiencing life to the fullest — all that God intended for life on this earth to be. If our focus is on our fear, then it dominates our thoughts, actions and decisions. Fear is not from God. In fact, it is one of the most repeated commands in the Bible – “Do not Fear.”
“For God did not give us a spirit of fear, but of power, love and self control.” – 1 Timothy 1:7 If we are operating in fear, we are not operating in faith.
We are all capable of amazing things; we are all gifted in some way. Many people never find out what they are truly capable of because they never take a chance and move beyond their doubt by taking a step when they see an opportunity for growth. God will lead us, but we have to move.
Pastor Jimmy Evans stated that we all marry to our level of emotional health. I believe that also applies to the type of friends and business associates we attract. Like attracts like. I personally want confident, Godly people to be drawn to me.
Walking with the Lord is one of the greatest adventures I have known. But I don’t want to hide behind my relationship with God waiting for a burning bush to appear. Yes; there are times when we are called to wait on the Lord, but sometimes it’s necessary to think outside the box and shake things up, even if it’s just trying a new hobby or learning a new skill. Maybe its something harder, like having that tough conversation with a loved one or removing yourself from an unhealthy situation. I believe when we step out of our comfort zone, doors begin to open. It’s like the old saying goes — that God is more concerned with our character than our comfort.
Being brave doesn’t mean you are not afraid. Being brave is being scared and doing something any way. Being brave means fighting back against all your fears and trusting God to guide you through whatever you are facing or trying to accomplish.
Don’t sit on the sidelines consumed with fear and watching the world go by. Take a leap of faith. Trust God. Trust yourself. What small step can you take today to begin shifting your life in the direction you envision?